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In love... P.C.: http://www.inspirational-friendship-poems.com/
In love…
P.C.: http://www.inspirational-friendship-poems.com/

Most teenage dreams are shattered because of the slight differences that they fail to realize, between Love and Infatuation. I found an article on it in http://www.diffen.com/ and felt it is worth sharing. Hope you will enjoy reading this study.

Love and Infatuation are both intense emotions that one feels for another person. These feelings are most often confused for each other by many people. But the two feelings differ in their actuality of love, intensity and final outcome.

Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love. Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of relationship when sexual attraction is central. Love can be described as feeling of intense affection for another person. It is most often talked about as an emotion between two persons. Hence is also sometimes referred to as interpersonal love.

Comparison chart

Infatuation Love
Definition Infatuation is the state of being completely lost in the emotion of unreasoning desire. A decision to commit oneself to another and to work through conflicts instead of giving up.
Associated with Selfish uncontrollable desire. Physical chemistry over a fairly long period of time.
Sub-Categories Short lived physical desire, crush, lust, hormonal activity, or addictive chemical reactions in the brain. Not revived with the same person without a deeper feeling. Intimacy, commitment, security, the desire to please and help the other person.
Symptoms Urgency, intensity, sexual desire, anxiety, high risk choices, reckless abandonment of what was once valued. Faithfulness, loyalty, confidence. Willingness to make sacrifices for another. Working at settling differences. Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other person’s opinion a chance.
Person to Person Reckless commitment to satisfy one’s all consuming lust. Commitment to another. Genuine intentions. Think about other person’s feelings before acting.
Feels like All-consuming euphoria similar to recreational drug use (addictive chemical reactions in the brain), stupidity (cupidity). Can risk everything for the next hit of adrenalin. A deep affection, contentment, confidence. Partners communicate and negotiate appropriate expectations. Requires a lot of selflessness and polite assertiveness. You are loving your best friend.
Result Emptiness, consequences of choices made while under the influence of mind numbing temporary lust. Security, peace, a solid partnership which can provide the ideal atmosphere to raise confident secure children.
Effect Being controlled by brain chemistry, not the heart, loss of ability to make rational evaluations of what is true, valuable and worthy. Contentment, stability.
Interdependency Cannot be sustained without some portion of love and physical attraction. Desire to be always close to that person at any cost. Partnership. Can lead to codependency if not tempered with self-awareness and self-guidedness.
Time Period Takes off fast and furious like a spark in dry grass burns out quickly and can leave feelings of emptiness. It will deepen with the passsage of time.
Commitment This is temporary in life and goes off after some period. This is permanent commitment and stays throughout the life.
Bottom Line Infatuation is delusional. Not real. Love is unconditional and the real deal.
Patience Infatuation is of the now. Love is a gradual process. It happens over time.

 

Subtle differences between Love and Infatuation are hard to tell... Almost twins! P.C. : http://goo.gl/RZM7f9
Subtle differences between Love and Infatuation are hard to tell… Almost twins!
P.C. : http://goo.gl/RZM7f9

There is an age for everything that sustains the balance necessary for two people to get along nicely. Until that is attained when relationship will have equilibrium naturally, one must try to abstain from petty interests that end up in a bad way.

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